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“The universe sent you nothing but angels.”
I was reading the book “The code of the extraordinary mind” when I came across a chapter which shared ways, how to increase our brain alpha waves. Among all the different ways mentioned, the most impactful one was the act of Forgiveness. Whenever you forgive someone, there is a sudden spike in alpha waves in your brain.
Before moving forward let’s first understand the alpha wave and why it is essential.
Alpha waves, which measure between 8 and 12 Hz, occur when you feel relaxed and when the brain is in an idle state without concentrating on anything.
Benefits of alpha waves:
Reduced depression
Greater creativity
Reducing anxiety
You can see how important alpha waves are. So, coming back to our topic, forgiveness is the most impactful way to increase these waves.
We are all human, filled with emotions, all sorts of emotions, it’s not easy for us to forgive people, let go of things, let go of our anger.
It’s difficult, but it’s not impossible. With some practice, we can control these.
How do we forgive someone? I’ll be sharing with you a step-by-step approach that you can follow, to forgive people, which I have followed and has helped me grow.
Step 1: Preparation
In a notebook or computer, make a list of people you feel have wronged you or situations you've been hurt. This also includes you, where you are still punishing yourself for something you did. Take your time, list down all these people, they can be from far in your past, your childhood, or someone recent.
Step 2: Set the Scene
Pick up a name from the list, sit in silence for some time, think about the moment it happened, what the person did, and let the scene build in your mind.
Step 3: Feel the Anger and Pain
As you set up the scene, feel all the emotions, and let the anger build up, don’t do this for more than a minute, as soon as the emotion of anger is built, move to the next step.
Step 4: Forgive into Love
See that person in front of you, but instead, feel love and compassion for the person. Ask yourself these questions:
Why did the person do it?
What did you learn from it?
How did the situation make your life better?
Follow these steps and forgive the person for whatever they did, few you might not be able to forgive them on the first day, it’s totally fine, repeat it unless you are able to forgive them completely.
If you think that now you can sit with that person to have a cup of coffee and not bring on the subject that hurt you, then you have forgiven the person.
Remember:
“Hurt people, hurt people. Those who hurt others are doing it because at some level, at some time they were hurt too.”
An Exercise for You
Create a list of people who you need to forgive.
Follow the steps mentioned above and forgive at least one person.
Quote of the Week
We all love ourselves more than other people, But care more about their opinions than our own.
My Favorite books
Rich dad, Poor dad
Ikigai: The Japanese secret to a long and happy life
Psychology Of Money
Atomic habits
How to win friends and influence people
The code of the Extraordinary Mind
The courage to be disliked
Book I am Reading Currently
Steve Jobs: The exclusive biography